Positives Must Outweigh the Negatives
World-renowned marital researcher, Dr. John Gottman, has found a "Magic-Ratio" for relationships. Essentially, his research has shown that in healthy couples, they have a ratio of 5 positives things happening for everyone 1 negative thing. What does this mean for your relationship? It means that negatives are really powerful in hurting our relationships, and need to be balanced out with many positives. Also, it's important to know that "doing nothing damaging" isn't the same as "doing something positive." We have to make efforts to do positive things like listen to our partners, affirm them, show interest in them and their lives, have fun together, and try resolve conflict in a respectful way.